All right, I must definitely not say anything to S, because the best way to communicate what I want to communicate is to say nothing. However I do like S and we have done all sorts of interesting things together at various points over the past twelve years. I am also vulnerable to being convinced … More Rehearsing a Speech

I want to TELL this person he is being kept at arm’s length. That is because I am sure that what he will do is plan to let this episode blow over, and then try to encroach upon me again at some weak moment. I want to head that off at the pass. How is … More New, Again

Dear S, The reason it was not appropriate to suggest staying in Kenner was that (a) I had already explained why I wanted to go home, (b) you know perfectly well I am not comfortable in “intimate” situations with you (note that I never accept invitations to sleep with you, even without sex), (c) I … More Latest Version. (Yes, I do want to tell him something. No: I just want to be ready in case the conversation comes up, or in the next situation. I want to stop blaming myself for not having said no clearly enough, fast enough, even though I had said it very, very clearly so many times before.)