Not yet being a Bodhisattva, I do not always feel one hundred percent sisterly. Some days I have extreme difficulty being nice to certain well-heeled women I know who are very proud of their so-called independence and authority but are actually running dogs of patriarchy (as Mao might have said). One such informs me now … More Patriarchal Women II
Monday was Blogging for Sex Education Day and I did not know, but I know now, and my favorite post on this topic is from Jack’s Non-Blog. It says in part that [s]ex has, for many people, an emotional impact that is rarely discussed logically in any form, and is normally reduced to saccharine conceptions … More Blogging for Sex Education
I have very little knowledge of Lacan and cannot comment seriously on him, but observe this: Between man and love, there is woman; between man and woman, there is a world; betwen man and the world, there is a wall. What is at stake in a serious love relationship between a man and a woman … More Jacques Lacan
From the May 30 State of the City address, given at the D-Day Museum: “It was time for a change, a new prescription,” he said. “In spite of some opposition, I stood firm and we swallowed the pill and what we are doing is working. Everyone has noticed the change in our appearance. We look … More Nagin on New Orleans
I would like to repeat these words by Martin Duberman, who I really do not think wrote them to defend a false universalism: For women, the common enemy remains the patriarchy. For blacks and Latinos, it is still white racism. For gay people, heterosexual oppression. None of these movements function effectively when the focus is … More On Individualism
An important answer to this question is, she does not remember that she has the right. I remember feeling I only had the right to ask for changes. The result was always that I ended up apologizing for having asked. It was excruciating. The point is that I had forgotten I had the right. Before … More Why She Does Not Just Leave
Women do not speak clearly, it is often said. Is this only because we are socialized to be very diplomatic, especially around men? Is it also because men are socialized not to take what we say seriously? Do these two phenomena feed upon each other? Why is there a newspaper article each year exhorting men … More On Women Not Being Clear
Summer being here, I am moved to repost my “Whiteman Abroad,” originally created June 11, 2006 and still relevant in 2007. It was conceived as an aid for professors on research trips, but it is also applicable more generally. Remember that ‘whitemen’ are not all male, and not all white. 1. You have a professional … More Travel Tips for Whitemen
Today I spent seven straight hours teaching four different topics, after getting up very early to finish preparing. At noon I had expected to have lunch and pick something up from Interlibrary Loan in the process. Scheduling was off for technical reasons, and there was no time. I was able to eat because a colleague … More A Rather Internalized Whiteman
This friend of mine runs and does pull-ups while I race walk and lift weights. We did this the other evening and then drank wine on the porch, having the odd conversation we have each year: his fantasy is to have a Friend With Benefits, and of course we know that friend would be quien … More Oddness of Men, or, Is This Entitlement?
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