I have just seen why in those days I was supposed to be so “unfeeling” and so much “in denial” … it had to do with being stable, which (a) was unfamiliar and (b) was hard to manipulate. “If you can remain calm, does that not mean you are emotionally numb, or that you have no range of feeling?”
“No. It only means I can be businesslike when necessary, or that I can put things in perspective, or that I can take things under advisement and not react immediately.” Of course I got broken down soon after that and lost several degrees of those skills. But I see now that my sin was stability.
Axé.
coldhearted scientist وداد 
Oh, I get that all the time too. Others are so much more loving and caring than I am. It’s a setup. I ignore all that, because when the emotional blackmailers leave or give up, I’m still in there pitching.
I got it from psychotherapy. Otherwise I would have discounted but psychotherapy told me this was pathological.