The reason I think they are buffoons is that they assume women are mentally retarded and hysterical, so they speak to us as though we were.
I never understand this quickly enough. I tend to think they are speaking in this manner because they are low IQ and not very grown up.
By the time I understand the actual reason for their behavior and start to dissimulate, it has usually become clear to them that I think they are low IQ and not very grown up.
Therefore, their feelings are hurt. The solution for them would be to stop behaving as they do in the first place.