I have discerned that another tool of the right wing and the patriarchy is to say you are either “unrealistic” or “codependent” if you are working for change. That goes for politics, but also for work … and I do suppose that work, my work, is politics.
The person from whose post I am quoting is more naive than I and has more extreme reactions, but also has a stronger ego and a better analysis of situations.
1. I thought that I must be managing my time poorly, and working inefficiently.
2. Anyone who thinks you can deal with overwork by saying no has never been over-worked. I tried refusing to chair a committee. My head of department breezily assured me that he was not asking, he was telling me what I was contractually obliged to do.