Now, thanks to Jennifer, I am honing in to where I want to be in terms of tone for this missive. Human has a point — that this person really is out of line — and so does my IRL friend here in Brazil, who said: –What is he trying to do, dominate you? and … More Honing In
All right, I must definitely not say anything to S, because the best way to communicate what I want to communicate is to say nothing. However I do like S and we have done all sorts of interesting things together at various points over the past twelve years. I am also vulnerable to being convinced … More Rehearsing a Speech
I want to TELL this person he is being kept at arm’s length. That is because I am sure that what he will do is plan to let this episode blow over, and then try to encroach upon me again at some weak moment. I want to head that off at the pass. How is … More New, Again
Dear S, The reason it was not appropriate to suggest staying in Kenner was that (a) I had already explained why I wanted to go home, (b) you know perfectly well I am not comfortable in “intimate” situations with you (note that I never accept invitations to sleep with you, even without sex), (c) I … More Latest Version. (Yes, I do want to tell him something. No: I just want to be ready in case the conversation comes up, or in the next situation. I want to stop blaming myself for not having said no clearly enough, fast enough, even though I had said it very, very clearly so many times before.)
I am now over my Brazilian domestic crisis, which was related to my Louisiana domestic crisis. Both crises were very upsetting because they impinged upon my work, a fact about which I am quite embarrassed. I will have trouble with my work as long as I allow myself to be mistreated in general, and that … More In Which I Am Da Whiteman, Claiming My Ground / A Woman, Trying to “Communicate” / A Weakling / A Victim of Emotional Abuse / An Emotional Worker / Or.
Now I am in a post at Historiann’s, which is an honor. Historiann’s title for my post, part of her feminist series Lessons for Girls, is “Romance Is For Your Pleasure and Enjoyment.” I offer a revised and expanded version of it here. First I have an hors d’oeuvre: since 1986 men have been trying … More Lessons for Girls 16: Romance is for Fun. And: Hold On To Your Computer, House, and Car.
1 Amorzinho, lua nova, rica fruta de pomar. quem será que tira a prova do vinho do teu lagar? It has been a hard day. 2 I am streaming New Orleans radio live. Jazz, fireworks and white clothes on the Bay of All Saints. Olodumare let me reflect your brightness this year. A new year … More New Year / Cravos de Papel
This Brazilian house has in it a book in English, published in the seventies, on how to meditate. I am reading it, in part for the information and in part as a period piece. It says you should not use techniques or continue with teachers that feel wrong to you. I found this remarkable because … More Reading for Pleasure Wednesday: Old Fashioned
I have said it before, and I will say it again: I should have started writing this book years ago, because I have amassed far too much material. Had I written more about some of it earlier, I would not now be wanting to stuff all of it into every piece. So I was really, … More Writing on Writing
I am now much happier than I was when I started this post because the electrician came and fixed the electricity. Now I can, for instance, take a tepid, not a freezing shower if I want to, and if it is dark, I have light in the bathroom. This is after twelve days. That, perhaps, … More Academic Monday: What Do You Need?
