Category: Banes

Latest Version. (Yes, I do want to tell him something. No: I just want to be ready in case the conversation comes up, or in the next situation. I want to stop blaming myself for not having said no clearly enough, fast enough, even though I had said it very, very clearly so many times before.)

02/01/2010

Dear S, The reason it was not appropriate to suggest staying in Kenner was that (a) I had already explained why I wanted to go home, (b) you know perfectly well I am not comfortable in “intimate” situations with you (note that I never accept invitations to sleep with you, even without sex), (c) I … More Latest Version. (Yes, I do want to tell him something. No: I just want to be ready in case the conversation comes up, or in the next situation. I want to stop blaming myself for not having said no clearly enough, fast enough, even though I had said it very, very clearly so many times before.)

In Which I Am Da Whiteman, Claiming My Ground / A Woman, Trying to “Communicate” / A Weakling / A Victim of Emotional Abuse / An Emotional Worker / Or.

02/01/2010

I am now over my Brazilian domestic crisis, which was related to my Louisiana domestic crisis. Both crises were very upsetting because they impinged upon my work, a fact about which I am quite embarrassed. I will have trouble with my work as long as I allow myself to be mistreated in general, and that … More In Which I Am Da Whiteman, Claiming My Ground / A Woman, Trying to “Communicate” / A Weakling / A Victim of Emotional Abuse / An Emotional Worker / Or.

Lessons for Girls 16: Romance is for Fun. And: Hold On To Your Computer, House, and Car.

02/01/2010

Now I am in a post at Historiann’s, which is an honor. Historiann’s title for my post, part of her feminist series Lessons for Girls, is “Romance Is For Your Pleasure and Enjoyment.” I offer a revised and expanded version of it here. First I have an hors d’oeuvre: since 1986 men have been trying … More Lessons for Girls 16: Romance is for Fun. And: Hold On To Your Computer, House, and Car.

Writing on Writing

29/12/2009

I have said it before, and I will say it again: I should have started writing this book years ago, because I have amassed far too much material. Had I written more about some of it earlier, I would not now be wanting to stuff all of it into every piece. So I was really, … More Writing on Writing

Dear Whiteman

26/12/2009

Dear Whiteman, I really have had just about enough of you. I will say it once again: I do not like to be projected into. In particular, I do not like to be projected into by condescending, poorly trained and weakly professionalized individuals. If I am a perfectionist, how is it that I send out … More Dear Whiteman

In Freedom Now

24/12/2009

The authors of this text in its original form spoke in enlightened words. The original is lost, but the scribes wrote it down in its first tongue. Already in Christendom, they used Latin letters. This is Christmas Eve, the true birthday of she who now performs the ancient text. I woke up happy and rested, … More In Freedom Now

Some Sophistry, Mildly Parodic Version

21/12/2009

1. Three white Europeans allege that no American of any color should study race in Brazil due to our propensity to impose African-American agendas on weaker Afro-Brazilians. They do believe they have the authority to speak for Afro-Brazilians, and they are sure that Afro-Brazilians who collaborate with African-Americans have not chosen this activity freely. 2. … More Some Sophistry, Mildly Parodic Version