I Now Liz has another very interesting post on emotional abuse. And as everyone probably realizes by now, what I most deplore about Al-Anon is its encouragement of self-abuse, and the way the 12 steps can drive people to question their own sanity. Here are two examples: 1. “Remember, the [alcoholic / addict / narcissist … More News Flash / One More Thing
I Sobre el llamado “dating,” dice una bloguera que: The “call her to see if she’s changed her mind” dating ploy might have worked 40-50 years ago on a woman who was desperate to marry because her looks were “fading” and/or felt that she was “nothing without a man.” Come on, that is soooooo last … More Educación femenina
I expected the first day of graduate school to be like any other school day, since I was beginning the Ph.D. program in the same department from which I had just graduated. But as I entered the building to go teach my class – this having been my first act in graduate school – I … More Diaphanous Screen
This is my post from a year ago today. I did not realize then that what was actually happening looked more like Liz’ highly recommended post on verbal abuse, which I am featuring and which everyone should read. One useful point to be gleaned from reading in and around the post are that the abuser’s … More An Anniversary of Sorts
I “Since racial discrimination and segregation are over in this country,” said Z/Cero sardonically, “we can go right back to court sanctioned segregation.” Read all about it. “This is a decision that the Court and the nation will come to regret,” said Stephen Breyer, still lucid despite sitting with the likes of Rehnquist, Scalia and … More Purification
Once upon a time I was sitting in a coffeehouse reading, as strands of conversation from another table wafted over to me. Under discussion was Israel’s right to exist. I was very young at the time and had not heard the phrase before. That is it, I said to myself. That is what I am … More Sonia Johnson
I Lately I have had so much trouble fighting back the evil grisgris that I have been casting spells upon myself, in English and in Spanish, every two to three hours. II When I do academic work I am often engulfed with shame. That has a complicated history which it does me no good to … More Sai, diabo!
I En este comentario de blog reconocí una vez más, y algo más claramente, la falsedad de lo que aprendí en la famosa Reeducación, a saber: Cómo dejar de aceptarte a ti mismo y dejar de aceptar tu historia y tu vida; Cómo pensar como una persona deprimida; Cómo actuar como una persona deprimida; Cómo … More Desprogramarse
La Changeseeker explica por qué tenemos todos que leer a Marjane Satrapi. A continuación reproducimos unos trozos de la entrevista con Satrapi que cita la Changeseeker: Satrapi: If I have any advice, it’s that every day that you wake up, don’t say, ‘This is normal.’ Every day, wake up with this idea that you have … More Marjane Satrapi
It is Friday, Oxalá’s day, and for the weekend we shall invoke Green Tara, the principal female manifestation of enlightenment and “Swift Liberator” from the Eight Great Fears. According to the First Dalai Lama, these fears are representative of corresponding defects, flaws, or obscurations: lions and pride, wild elephants and delusions, forest fires and hatred, … More Green Tara
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