I am in the stage of recognizing that she was not, due to the emotional abuse and its profundity, but here is something really good.
My mother came from a relatively racist, classist, and anti-Semitic background and rather than propagate that or deny it, she fought against those sentiments and learned to shed them. This meant there were many burdens we did not have to carry ourselves. In addition, she provided us with an excellent role model as she worked to evolve.
I could say a great deal about what led me to think about this, and I realize that like so many perceptions I have, it could lead to a good article or memoir.